Grieving the Death of a Pet

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Recognizing that pets are an important part of the family and share a very special bond with us, it is natural that the death of a beloved pet elicits very strong emotions.  Companion animals bring such joy and comfort to our lives that often they truly are looked upon much like a child or very special friend with in the family.  It is not unnatural or abnormal to have strong feelings for your pet.  It is important that you recognize these feelings and understand why the death of a pet can be so difficult for you or other members of the family.  The objective of this information is to help provide you with tools to assist you in your grieving process and support you during this very difficult time.

 Understanding Grief

            Grieving is a necessary, unavoidable and healthy response to the loss of a treasured family pet.  Everyone experiences grief in different ways.  One may experience feelings of shock, sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety, loneliness, helplessness, or depressions.  Physical sensations may include crying, hollowness in the stomach, tightness in the chest and throat, weak muscles, a dry mouth, appetite and sleep disturbances, and fatigue.  Some of us may experience many of these feelings; others experience very few.  The important thing to remember is there is no right or wrong way to grieve, only your way.

 Finding Support

            As a part of the grieving process, you may feel the need to share your grief and feelings with others. When the loss involves your companion animal it is sometimes difficult to get the support you need.  Family and friends might take the time to listen, but occasionally they may not be able to understand the significant role your pet had in your life or the extent of you grief.  At times when the support of reading materials, videotapes, and the help of family and friends is not enough, professional assistance may be beneficial.  There are many professional counselors, therapists, and members of the clergy trained in the areas of loss and grief that can provide assistance though the grieving process.